Marriage: The Root of Jealousy

Osho,
I have been with my boyfriend for two years and we still enjoy being together, but if he goes with other women I freak out. Would you please tell me the very roots of jealousy, how I can deal with it, or even go through it?

“Jealousy is one of the most prevalent areas of psychological ignorance about yourself, about others and more particularly, about relationship.

“People think they know what love is — they do not know. And their misunderstanding about love creates jealousy. By ‘love’ people mean a certain kind of monopoly, some possessiveness — without understanding a simple fact of life: that the moment you possess a living being you have killed him.

“Life cannot be possessed. You cannot have it in your fist. If you want to have it, you have to keep your hands open.

“But the thing has been going on a wrong path for centuries; it has become ingrained in us so much that we cannot separate love from jealousy. They have become almost one energy.

“For example, you feel jealous if your lover goes to another woman. You are disturbed by it now, but I would like to tell you that if you don’t feel jealous you will be in much more trouble — then you will think you don’t love him, because…